Caring For Yourself, Real Talk

Breathe: Self-Care Tips For Outraged and Exhausted Americans

So I’m not happy. Far from it. The US, a place that gave so many people so much hope, despite its history, is reverting to its worst self. I’m living in a new worst self. And I’m heartbroken and scared and angry and exhausted.

What do you do when the White House can’t be believed?

Many of us find ourselves in a similar cycle on top of our everyday lives — anger, outrage, fact-checking, disseminating the latest threat to our freedoms and the country we were becoming, calling and writing to people in power to try to turn things around, attending protests, donating money, and arguing on social media with folks who won’t change their minds. Because for some, this is the very world they voted for and that is bewildering and unimaginable to so many of us.

It’s exhausting. It’s defeating. Every step we gain, we find 5 leaps have been taken in the wrong direction while we slept, laughed at a birthday, grabbed coffee with a friend.

Exhausting and defeating for sure, but it doesn’t even begin to hold a candle to the exhaustion and trauma the 2000+ children of asylum-seeking migrants are facing each and every day they are without their parents, without comfort, in a strange land, with strange people treating them poorly at best. And while everyone is fighting over who started this policy on Facebook (it was Trump’s zero-tolerance policy), children are suffering. Children.

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I ask myself, “What if it were your kids…” and I can’t even finish the thought, because I know the agony, pain, and fear and worry is greater than the worst thing I can imagine. If these girls were taken away from me with no indication of where they were going and when I’d see them again… I’m broken at the thought.

After two years living under this administration, I can tell you this loop of outrage, anger, calling, writing, donating, and arguing has major mental and physical ramifications. I feel guilty during my happy moments. I feel helpless during the dark ones. I feel worry when I unplug for my own mental health. And I feel a myriad of emotions in-between.

But this is supposed to be about self-care. Some of you may find you need permission to take care of yourself in the face of these atrocities. This is your permission. Some of you may need a reminder to take care of yourself between calls, writing, fighting with family and friends on FB. This is your reminder. Some of you never had a plan for self-care in the first place, because you didn’t need one. I’ve got some suggestions for you. Some of you may find your old de-stress go-tos aren’t working anymore. Hopefully, this post will give you some new ideas.

My Self-Care Suggestions For Being Your Best Self During These Tumultuous Times

  • Be proactive. If a new policy outrages you, it is SO EASY to find resources online with doable actions:
    • Make Calls
    • Write to Your Senator/Governor/Representative
    • Donate to Reliable Organizations
    • Protest
    • Volunteer
    • Speak Up
    • Speak Out
    • Vote
    • Taking positive actions for your cause will help you feel empowered. And you are powerful, even when you feel helpless. (Someone reminded me of this on Instagram recently. I needed to hear it so I’m sharing it with you.)
  • Step Back and Take Care of Yourself
    • You need energy to do all the things and manage your outrage and real life.
    • Take a digital sabbatical.
    • Have a cry and a nap.
    • Eat well.
    • Have some chocolate.
    • Read a book to escape.
  • Breathe
    • This can mean many things:
    • Exercise
    • Meditate (it doesn’t have to be pretty)
    • Pray
    • Wish
    • Yoga
    • Rant
    • Holding it all in is stressful. Get it out with your breath any way that works for you.
  • Celebrate
  • Breathe
    • Yes, again. Do this a lot. Just writing this post I found myself holding my breath a few times.

What do you do to de-stress? To be your best during these very tense and emotional times? I need all the tips I can get. Let me know in the comments below or on Instagram or Facebook.

Self-care tips for everyone who is feeling too much, but still has things to do in the face of Trump's administration.

Caring For Yourself

Digital Sabbatical: Why You Need One And How To Disconnect

Are you ready to shut your devices off? Hide them under your bed? Do you just need a break from all the social media and email and EVERYTHING? I found myself totally burnt out on social media and digital consumption heading into a family vacation mid-May. But the problem was I was burnt out BUT ALSO completely addicted to my phone/tablet/Insatgram.

Let’s be real. These phones, for many of us, are random generators of good feelings, security, and connection. I love that hit of dopamine — that reward that comes from the random good news that would ding or cha-ching on my phone. I had FOMO — I was afraid I was missing out on something or somebody. My phone is also a major tool I use for work and to communicate with people.

Image Credit: Charisse Kenion

At the same time, I was also exhausted from checking and engaging in all the digital things all the time. There is SO much I check and engage with online regularly/daily/multiple times a day.

My Way Too Frequent Digital Check-Ins

I made list of all the platforms and places I engage with regularly:

  • Instagram
    • penandthimble
    • thathappymom
    • gillianstitches
  • Instagram Stories
    • penandthimble
    • thathappymom
    • gillianstitches
  • Facebook
    • personal
    • penandthimble
    • thathappymom
  • Twitter
    • penandthimble
    • thathappymom
  • Pinterest
    • penandthimble
    • thathappymom
  • Email
    • personal
    • penandthimble
    • thathappymom
  • Websites
    • penandthimble
    • thathappymom
    • Etsy marketplace
    • Amazon Handmade marketplace
  • Accounting/Banking
  • Shipping/Tracking

All The Other Reasons I Use Devices

Whoa! Right?! That’s a lot! Like totally overwhelming a lot. And that’s just the work-type stuff. Not the millions of other reasons I’m using my phone or tablet:

  • take photos,
  • getting directions,
  • accessing coupons,
  • games,
  • tracking workouts,
  • watching TV,
  • texting, and
  • using the phone… rarely.

If you are horrified by my digital/online presence, I get it. If you are horrified and thinking, “OMG! Me too!” I get it. AND I have made a worksheet to help you identify:

  1. the tools you use on your devices,
  2. the triggers that prompt you to scroll your phone mindlessly, and
  3. the tactics to limit or stop your digital consumption and use for a while.

But first I’ll tell you about my own experiences with social media, in hopes it helps you identify your own use and triggers.

My Mindless Scrolling and Phone-Check Triggers

Once I realized that the yucky, exhausted feeling I was experiencing was significantly related to my digital consumption and use, I started to notice the why and when of my digital use. Sometimes I just need to check email, check to see if I have any sales to create items for, take a picture of my cute kids.

But there were also triggers that would prompt me to mindlessly pick up my phone and start scrolling before I even realized what I was doing. Right? You probably have done this too! Suddenly you are 30 minutes into watching Facebook videos and you have no idea how you got there or why you even picked up your phone to begin with.

Some of my mindless digital consumption triggers are:

  • an interrupted conversation (might as well check some stats until the kids let me finish that conversation with my husband),
  • the downtime after a tantrum (I need that hit of dopamine),
  • that antsy feeling I’d get while working on a big work project,
  • boredom,
  • FOMO.
  • And the big one… when someone else picks up their phone. Watch for it when you are in a group. You won’t be able to unsee it. If one person picks up their phone to say, check the time, you will likely get the urge to look at your phone and so will the people around you. It is human mirroring at it’s best with the added bonus of a possible pick-me-up! Hard to resist!

How I Ditched Digital For A Little While 

My initial plan was to go cold turkey and leave my phone at home during our vacation, but my husband pointed out that the rest of our family that was vacationing with us would likely text or call me to connect if we got separated during our time together, so that was extreme. After some thought, I agreed. My phone would come with us.

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Grouped Apps on the last page of my phone scroll. Also, #sorrynotsorry I don’t answer my phone.

But if I was going to have the addictive and exhausting tool, I needed parameters. I moved all of my highly addictive and mindless-use apps  to the last page in my phone and I grouped them all together within a collection I labelled “STOP!” This way, if I happened to be triggered while on vacation, my apps weren’t on the first page I would expect to see them. I would have to actively swipe a few times to get to the app, and even then it is within a grouping labeled “STOP!” that I’d have to click on to access the app. I also disabled my notifications. No pings and dings to trigger my Pavlovian response to check my phone.

(And by the way, a few weeks later, I haven’t moved those apps back to the front page of my phone nor have I ungrouped them nor have I re-enabled notifications.)

The result was that I was not on Instagram, work Facebook (I did consciously post a few pics to my personal FB account while on vacation), Pinterest, Twitter, Accounting, Etsy, or Amazon Apps for the 4 days of our vacation.

What Did I Miss During My Sabbatical?

Nothing.

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I’m just a woman taking a vacation selfie in the morning only to forget to take pictures for the rest of the day!

News: I didn’t miss any news I couldn’t catch up on when I got back. The royal wedding went off without a hitch without me being apprised of every detail leading up to it!

Work: Purchase rate didn’t change at pen&thimble. I left my shops open after adjusting turnaround times and I came back to a few orders. Order rate did not change in any direction because I wasn’t stalking my stats. Order rate also didn’t change because I stopped posting on social media. That last one was HUGE to realize.

Social Media: My accounts were fine when I returned. In fact, my initial posts after my return had more likes and engagement than I had had in months!

Email: My email inboxes were full. But it was mostly spam-type emails and the rest I replied to with no problem. I’m actually terrible at replying to emails although I check constantly, so a few days/weeks between emails is par for the course.

What Did I Gain From My Digital Sabbatical?

So what happened when I took a social media and digital break? I felt light. I connected with my family. I still used my phone to take pictures, but still even less than I typically do. I felt like I was on vacation. I virtually unplugged from work and plugged into that beach and pool life! And separating work from family is hard to do as I work from home and work hours often turn into a gray area as I’m balancing kids, home, myself, and my business in a day.

Are you ready to try a digital sabbatical? Sign up for this free worksheet to help you plan your own digital sabbatical! A successful sabbatical relies on a plan — What tools and apps are fair game? What aren’t? Will you announce your absence? Make a plan for your next digital sabbatical today using my short but illuminating guide!

Need to take a break from social media? Want to take a break from the constant ding of your devices? Grab my free digital sabbatical worksheet!

Caring For Yourself, Happy Family, Happy Habits, Limiting Beliefs

Meditating Like A Mother

So I want to pick up on my Mindfulness Made Easy post from last week, and talk about the same concept as it relates to meditation. As much I want to meditate, I struggle to fit meditation in. As a work-from-home mom with a preschooler and toddler around, there just isn’t a good and quiet time to block off for meditation.

Or so I tell myself. I have this belief (excuse) about meditation that’s difficult to shake — like mindfulness, I have to do it “right” or there is no point. I have a perfect meditation scenario in my mind — a silent chunk of time with my oil diffuser making soothing water drip sounds as a calming scent wafts over me. And I tell myself it has to be exactly this or I can’t do it. Sound familiar?

I have this belief (excuse) about meditation that's difficult to shake -- like mindfulness, I have to do it
Photo by Lisa Zoe on Unsplash

But why have I decided that meditation has to be perfect or nothing? Because I’m looking for an excuse not to practice? A limiting belief regarding how much peace I’m allowed to feel? I’m not sure. But this “there is no perfect time for meditation” excuse is a big one for me.

Meditation for some is the practice of noticing what bubbles up into the mind and letting it go by concentrating on breaths or a sound. This is the essential piece in my own practice. And once I realized that I could do the same with little people bubbling up into my meditations space — acknowledge them and let go of the loss of my “perfect” meditation environment — suddenly I had more space in my calendar for practicing meditation.
I wanted to share a video I took this week. My purpose for filming my mediation was to share a few deep breaths on Instagram Stories as a sort of calm motivation. But what happened while I was taking the video is so much more what meditating like a mother often looks like for me. Enjoy!
If you are interested in meditation, but never find yourself getting around to it, what excuses do you make to avoid practicing? Are they real barriers or limits and constraints you have made up? Meditate on that for a bit!

If meditating is something you are interested in, what excuses to you make to avoid practicing? Are they real barriers or limits and constraints you have made up?

Caring For Yourself, Happy Habits

Mindfulness Made Easy

Mindfulness is a big buzz word right now and everyone wants to be more mindful, including me, but it feels like this HUGE thing. Right?

What do you think of when someone starts talking about mindfulness or being mindful? I first imagine meditating in a dark room for 30 minutes — a goal I have set for myself so many times, but never get around to it.

When people start talking about mindfulness it makes me imagine somehow plugging into the world or the energy of the world in a way I don’t usually.

Mindfulness makes me think of mental exercise. Mental exercise makes me think of exhaustion. And then I think, well I already have enough EXHAUSTION (thank you very much) and I keep scrolling.

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But What If The Hype Of Being Mindful Is Distracting From The Ease Of Being Mindful?

What if we removed mindfulness from the hype and pomp and all the extra? What if we separated mindfulness from that gorgeous photo of that impossible yoga pose on the beach? What if we removed mindfulness from the 30-day Instagram challenges? What if we approached mindfulness from its core?

The most simple definition of mindful is:

mind·ful   (adjective)   conscious or aware of something.

Mindfulness is then simply a state of being conscious or aware of something.

Did your head just explode too? Yes, It’s just that easy.

You Can Be Mindful Anywhere!

You can switch in and out of mindfulness all day long! And, yes, that’s doing it right! Our brains help us plan, and contemplate, and sense danger, and feel joy just as much as they can help us move in and out of mindfulness.

It’s not an Instagram challenge! It’s not a 30-minute meditation. It isn’t impossibly difficult mental gymnastics.

Mindfulness Is…

  1. Being aware of the temperature of the water when you wash your hands. Noticing the smell of the water. The sound the water makes as it exits the spout and hits your hands and the sink below.
  2. Mindfulness is taking a minute to watch the rain fall outside. Watching the drops splat on your wood deck or form tiny puddles on the concrete. Smelling the rain. Feeling the dampness in the air. Being conscious of the size of the rain drops and the air pressure.
  3. Mindfulness is taking a moment to be conscious of the water falling on your head and over your body in the shower, how your sheets feel — crisp, heavy — when you wake in the morning, the smell of your morning commute, the sound of “quiet” when your kids are all at school — the fridge rumbling, the tinkle of the dishwasher as a glass rattles, the hum of the air conditioning. It’s coloring with your kids and noting the way the wax spreads across the area you’re filling in.
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Being Mindful

Mindfulness Is Simple

It is also rooting, grounding, connecting, heightening, a place from which to draw gratefulness, peace, and strength. It is all of those HUGE things, but it is also so simple.

Instead of trying to be mindful today, I ask that you notice the times you are mindful today. I guess I’m asking you to be mindful of being mindful. All those mindful moments are a practice. There is no right way. There is no set amount of time. There is no trying to be mindful.

You Are Mindful Already.

Caring For Yourself, Real Talk

Moving Beyond The Meme

Had I had more sleep, that incident in the library last week could have looked very different. I would have still left feeling Other, Outcast, Less-Than. All those moments leading up to that conversation in the library would have still hit me like a ton o’ bricks, but I would have pushed them away as I usually do, made a joke to my husband or had a chuckle with a friend that evening, and kept moving.

Because I can’t react the way I did last week each time I’m reminded what my skin color means to others. I would be exhausted and pissed all day long, as I was, actually, until Tuesday of this week.

And humor in the face of adversity is a great healer and release from tension. A joke, memes, a good dose of cynicism has it’s place. As a former positive psychologist who researched humor (“humor researcher,” if we’re being causal), I can say that humor is absolutely helpful in maintaining well-being in the face of stressors. But your responses to my post last week were a reminder that we need to move beyond humor, now more than ever. Even if it is exhausting and tiresome and extra work.

This blog and community was born from my desire to move beyond the tired mom meme of “wine-o-clock” that I see constantly on social media. The joke is funny and it has that “we’re in this together, friend” quality. But as I talked about in one of my early posts (You Need To Stop Treating Yo’ Self), after you have a laugh and pour that wine, you need to take another step to address that exhaustion. Make changes to break the cycle of kids/life leaves you exhausted and stressed so you’re waiting for wine time. Go to bed earlier, set some boundaries, workout, meditate, eat better. Treat yourself, yes! I had two PopTarts for breakfast yesterday. And a glass of wine with pizza delivery the night before. But care for yourself too. I also ran 2 miles, ate a bowl of broccoli and rice for lunch, and read myself to sleep.

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Proof author believes in treating yo’ self

So I did the extra work last week. In reality, I did it because I didn’t have the humor in me to fortify me and move me forward. I wrote about some of my experiences present and past — trying to leave out buzzwords that are divisive — to help people see what it is like to be in my shoes. And that extra work was met with more readers in one day than this little blog has ever had in a month!

And more importantly, my post resonated with you. And boy was I flooded with your responses! I spent a good part of Friday last week responding to your messages on social media. You showed me empathy. You showed me sympathy. You told me you will rethink how you approach POC with curious and well-meaning questions. You told me that you knew someone who needed to read that post — your friend, your son. And I was blown away.

One of the many replies that really hit me straight in the heart — in a good way — was from a truly well-meaning, curious-about-the-world woman and friend of mine. She returned my post with a vulnerable and honest response of her own. You can read it in the comments section of my last post, It Isn’t Even About That Conversation At The Library. It was a gift to see someone truly hear me, rethink, and share her thought process in such an open way. And gifts like that come from doing the work. They come from moving beyond the meme, the joke, the headline, the troll responses. They come from sharing our stories.

So thank you for reading and sharing and responding to my post last week. As someone who overthinks how to respond to troubling situations to the point of not responding at all, every single one of your thoughtful replies meant the world to me. You did the work too by reaching out back to me. And if even for a brief moment, it changed our thinking, made us feel connected, and that is real positive change. That is breaking a cycle.

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Q+A: Dropping Mom-Guilt

It’s our second Q+A video and this one is about mom-guilt. And I had been thinking… what do I have to say NO to, in order to drop mom-guilt. I talk about that here!

Hope you enjoyed our second video Q+A video! These videos will be quick, informal, straight-to-the-point, and delivered in 3-ish minutes. Easily digestible answers to your important questions, one at a time!

Have a question about parenting, self-care, finding more happiness in your life? Follow me on Instagram @thathappymom and stay tuned for the next question roundup!

Dropping Mom-Guilt

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Q+A: How To Be An Introvert and A Mom

Thank goodness for this freeze-frame! Haha! Our first Q+A is here as promised!

Hope you enjoyed our very first video Q+A video! These videos will be quick, informal, straight-to-the-point, and delivered in 3 minutes or less. Easily digestible answers to your important questions, one at a time!

Have a question about parenting, self-care, finding more happiness in your life? Follow me on Instagram @thathappymom and stay tuned for the next question roundup!

Caring For Yourself, Happy Family

Go Away Big Hairy Guilt Monster

There has been a lot of talk about guilt in my conversations with you via email, messages, Instagram, and Facebook. And the only thing I absolutely know about guilt is that we feel it ALL THE TIME!

We feel guilty about screen time, snack choices, lack of sleep, taking a look at our phones for 5 minutes while our toddler plays in front of us, taking a little time for ourselves, not taking a little time for ourselves, being cranky that one time, that time we let our kid test her boundaries on the wall and she fell off, that time we helicoptered in and didn’t let him manage that social interaction on his own. So much guilt is paired with our mom-choices.

Go Away Big Hairy Guilt Monster

But what’s with all the guilt? Why are we constantly being chased by guilt and simultaneously feeding it? What if we just stop feeding the guilt monster? Will it stop chasing us looking for food?

I say we stand our ground and tell this guilt monster to go away!

It isn’t serving us. Is it? Well maybe a little bit. The guilt I felt immediately after I shouted at my kid a month ago did serve me. I should have felt guilty. That was a totally crappy way to react to a crying 5 year-old. But now a month later? What is that guilt still doing here now? I apologized and explained that I was absolutely wrong. We talked it out. She moved on. But that guilt whispers in my ear, “Remember that time you shouted?

I don’t need guilt to stand guard. I don’t need guilt to keep me from shouting at my kids. I work hard every single day to keep from shouting because I don’t like people shouting at me, I’m not a shouty person, and it just feels wrong and nonsensical to me. So what is the guilt still doing here?

I’m not sure just yet. But it’s got to go.

Not over to you! Just down a long road to nowhere else. Because I don’t need guilt in my life. And I suspect neither do you! I’m trying my best, I’m busting my bottom for my kids’ happiness, health, wellbeing. I’m doing the best I can plus a little bit more. And that HAS to be enough because it is all I have. And there is just no more room for guilt.

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I Can’t Do Everything Right

I didn’t realize that when my first baby was sort of pushed and pulled from out of me, and I held her in my arms — from that moment on — I was expected to do everything right. I had to be perfect. Because only perfection would keep this baby safe, happy, on the “right” developmental pace, and healthy. Everyone was suddenly expecting me to do it all right all the time.

That was the unwritten contract I had unknowingly signed when they said, “she’s a girl!” And my fat jaundiced baby who wouldn’t nurse for the first few days because I wasn’t doing it right already, needed a perfect mom who did everything right.

My first didn’t sleep through the night until she stopped nursing at 11 months. Because I wasn’t doing naps and bedtime right. And obviously she stopped nursing “early,” because I wasn’t doing that right either. She was late to walk and talk too. I took her to all the baby movement and singing classes and countless baby playdates, but I just wasn’t doing it quite right.

Then my second baby came. This time I knew what was expected of me. Right! She nursed right away! Yessss! But she nursed too often because I wasn’t doing it right in a different way. And then she slept with me (and not even once in her crib) because I couldn’t get sleeping right again. And I didn’t read to her as often as I did with my first, because I didn’t have time to do that right either.

I'm Not Doing Everything Right

And I can go on and on about all the ways I have done it wrong. And I can tell you about the days, weeks, and years of tears and frustration while trying to figure it out — that right way to do things. But I have a feeling you’ve already been there.

And maybe you’ve known this for a while, and I’m arriving to the party late as usual, but I’ve been wasting all this time looking for something that doesn’t exist. Doing it right isn’t a real thing. It’s just not real!

What is real and doable is our way — the way that works for our family of four. And I’m pretty certain our way could be more clear to me if I could just shut out all the regurgitated and tired advice shoveled my way via social media, blogs, articles, and the lady at the grocery store who couldn’t wait to tell me the better way to do that one thing.

And I’m out. I’m done! I’m not going to try to to do it right anymore. I’m going to follow my own intuition about parenting, not the Seven Things I Need to Change Today to Have More Grateful Children.

My children will see how to be imperfect and kind and silly. Instead of a mom trying to figure out how to do it right, they will see one who can grow, change course, and apologize when doing it wrong means doing someone wrong. I will be someone who gets it right sometimes and sometimes gets it wrong too. Just like everyone else, whether they’re a mom or not.

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The Opposite of Busy Isn’t Lazy

I’ve noticed that there are two descriptors I have been using without much thought to what exactly they mean — busy and lazy. And I’ve been labelling myself as both many times throughout the same day. And while it is possible to be both busy and lazy, I am using them as if they are opposites and it is confusing and inaccurate. And I know other moms do this too and I just want to talk about it!

When I’m on-the-go. Cleaning up. Doing work in my office. I’m busy. (Kinda, but there are so many better words: absorbed, engrossed, um… driving?)

When I take a rest and sit down to sip some tea. I’m being lazy. (No I’m not. I’m recharging, resting, putting my feet up!)

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Rethinking these words recently has been essential to my happiness. I have been trying not to throw either word around as much, but hey, it still happens! They are deeply imbedded in our mom-culture (busy) and my vocabulary (lazy).

I wrote down a list of what I really mean when I say BUSY.

  • Overwhelmed by the thoughts/to-do/schedules in my head.
  • Working.
  • On a deadline.
  • Cleaning up.
  • Late getting somewhere.
  • Tired/Exhausted.

Then I wrote down what I’m really doing when I’m being LAZY.

  • Recharging.
  • Taking a breather.
  • Relaxing.
  • Enjoying down-time.
  • Resting.

It was eye-opening. First of all, I’m stirring different pots all day, but I’m not necessarily overly occupied. There is time for it all or the important things. I have noticed that when I say busy most often, I mean tired or overwhelmed.

Friend at preschool pick-up: How are you?

Me: Busy!

What I really mean: I’m tired. I didn’t sleep well and I’m having trouble keeping schedules straight even after writing them down. I need a moment to really recharge but I don’t see that happening soon. I want to go home and close my eyes, but I know that won’t happen and it’s stressing me out.

I’m the first person (and only person) to call myself “lazy” when I sit down.

Husband: Hey, babe! How was your day?

Me: It was pretty good! Laundry is done and preschool pickup went well! We even got to play at the playground for an hour! And I finally figured out that YouTube issue I was having! And Ivy said the cutest thing ever today! But I don’t know what to do for dinner because we ran out of rotini pasta and it’s the one thing I forgot to pick up on our errands this afternoon. And now I’m sitting here being lazy.

It’s dangerous because these words have very real meanings, but I’m not using them that way and it distorts the reality of my day. I don’t want to have busy days. I want to have productive days or even exhausting days, if that’s the truth. I want to enjoy recharging or taking a few breaths without putting such a negative/stereotypical label on myself.

I’ll be working on this more. I find, more often than not, I’m trying to take back the word busy or lazy once I’ve said it. So it’s slow going, but I will get there!

Do you throw around words like busy and lazy in the same way? Do you have different words that you find yourself using that may not accurately describe your reality? Let me know in the comments below or tell me over at @thathappymom on Instagram!

The Opposite of Busy Isn't Lazy